Relationship

by Bianca
(South Africa)

Hi Victoria

How do I put this, well I was in a relationship for 7 Years and this year February to find out the person has being having an affair for two months while still being with me.

I was devastated heartbroken, well the person does not stay with me anymore and I kept asking myself what did I do so wrong, what is wrong with me, why do I derserve this treatment?

I gave up everything pushed half of my family, lost most of my houses just to be with this person, treated the person with respect, honesty,loyalty,trust,faith and then I was the one that got hurt.

This person promised never to leave me never to mess me around and always love and protect me.

I guess you cant trust anyone anymore. How do I build myself up again how do I become confident and forget about the pain that was inflicted on me.

Please help me to understand myself.

Thank You

Bianca

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ANSWER BY VICTORIA GRANT
by: Anonymous

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Hi Victoria

How do I put this, well I was in a relationship for 7 Years and this year February to find out the person has being having an affair for two months while still being with me.

I was devastated and heartbroken, well the person does not stay with me anymore and I kept asking myself what did I do so wrong, what is wrong with me, why do I derserve this treatment?

I gave up everything pushed half of my family, lost most of my houses just to be with this person, treated the person with respect, honesty,loyalty,trust,faith and then I was the one that got hurt.

This person promised never to leave me never to mess me around and always love and protect me.

I guess you cant trust anyone anymore. How do I build myself up again how do I become confident and forget about the pain that was inflicted on me.

Please help me to understand myself.

Thank You


Answer By VICTORIA

Hello Bianca and thank you for your question.

It sounds to me like you put 100% of yourself in to this relationship without saving any percentage for you.

The risk with giving your whole self to another is that it can then leave you wide open to getting hurt.

Now that's not necessarily an awful thing, for through pain comes growth.

Everything that has happened to you is a direct result of what you allowed. Love should not mean sacrifice on only your part, there needs to be a balance of all of the traits you mentioned above including, loyalty, trust and respect.

There is nothing wrong with you and you must stop playing that tune in your mind or eventually it will become your truth.

Instead see the situation for what it was 'a learning curve' and be thankful that you made a lucky escape from someone who was obviously not worthy.

Do not curse the dark, celebrate the light. You were born with gifts and talents that are unique to you alone to share with the world. So remain focused on your purpose.

Work daily on your goals 'See Goals section of this website' until you become more confident and powerful as you stick to your decisions.

Focus on one goal at a time, stay active and remain in a positive state.

'See Vision section of the website'

Stay Strong my friend.

Love and Light

Victoria Grant


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