Should I tell my Girlfriend that I cheated?

by brian J
(UK Bristol)

I cheated on my girlfriend a month ago when we were on a 'break' from each other, with my Ex girl. It was a mistake I am back with my GF now and I feel so guilty everytime I look at my current GF.

After I slept with my ex she called me and asked to borrow some money and I gave it to her even though she never pays me back. I dont want to risk her telling my GF what happened.

I love my girlfriend so much but this stupid mistake is making me literally loose sleep. I hate lying to her and decieving her.

What shall I do.

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ANSWER BY VICTORIA GRANT NEW
by: Anonymous

I cheated on my girlfriend a month ago when we were on a 'break' from each other, with my Ex girl. It was a mistake I am back with my GF now and I feel so guilty everytime I look at my current GF.

After I slept with my ex she called me and asked to borrow some money and I gave it to her even though she never pays me back. I dont want to risk her telling my GF what happened.

I love my girlfriend so much but this stupid mistake is making me literally loose sleep. I hate lying to her and decieving her.

What shall I do.

ANSWER By Victora Grant

Hello and thank you for your question.

Relationships are testing at the best of times let alone when someone has done the unthinkable and often unforgiveable thing of being unfaithful.

I am not sure how long you and your partner have been together but it seems as though you have strong feelings for her and by keeping this a secret you are further damaging the relationship and may be sabotaging any chance of it moving forward.

In life its not usually the 'act' that upsets people but more the deception. The longer you carry this lie the harder it will be to ever tell the truth.

Your girlfriend may be heartbroken by these revelations but you were on a 'break' so technically you did not cheat. However this does not excuse the fact that what you done was selfish and brash.

It sounds to me like your Ex will always be available as long as you are willing. so dont be!

If you want to be with your current girlfriend then honesty is the best policy all round.

Love and Light

Victoria Grant




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